Sometimes your husband may give you that glazed over look as you are going on and on about the latest issue, but, he is probably listening more closely than you think. Your words matter. What you say has a powerful effect on those around you, and those closest to you.
What kind of words do you whisper in his ear?
Do you build him up or tear him down with criticism?
What kind of words do you use to greet him?
Do you speak belief about the man he is or speak doubt over his actions?
What kind of words do you use to describe him to others?
Do you trust his motives, even when his methods are less than desirable?
What kind of words do you communicate with your body language?
Do you give him the benefit or the doubt or assume the worst?
Consider your influence. You have more of it that your realize. Need more convincing about this?
The Bible provides powerful examples of women who influenced their husbands for good (like Ruth or Esther) or for evil (like Eve or Jezebel).
Are you bringing your husband good, all the days of his life, with your words and actions?
This is a tall order, impossible really, to do him good ALL the days of his life. I don’t believe that we can even come close to this without the help of the Lord. He is able to guide us and give us the gumption and strength to live this out.
ALL the days, means every day. Not just on your nice days, or your pretty days, or on the-house-is-all-picked-up days. But on the I-don’t-like-you-very-much days, and the tired days and the certain time of the month days. We are called to bring our husband good, not harm, all the days of our life.
Let’s not get discouraged by this, but view it as an opportunity to daily depend on Jesus to give us this kind of love; His love.
Because shouldn’t we both try to out-bless each other? But, even if it feels one-sided, don’t give up. Keep bringing good. Keep offering an influence that is grounded in God’s Word, not based on feelings, but on the facts of God’s life-giving words.
I confess, I was irritated today. I had a long day and was not feeling very nice towards my man. These days happen. But, in them, we have a choice, always a choice…to let the irritations cause us to turn on each other, or to take them to Jesus and ask Him to help. The enemy wants us to point the fingers, to lash out, to harm with hate. But God. He is able and ready to help. Able to make beauty from ashes. Able to help us see through the fog.
What influences you?
Who influences you?
Consider your influence.
May we build up today with words that heal and give hope.
Not candy-coated, feel-good words, but, life-giving, true words found in the Word.
At the end of “all the days”, don’t you want it to be said that you influenced those around you for good, with supernatural love and gracious patience?
We cannot do this without you. You are good. You bring us good, not harm or evil, all the days of our lives. Some days, more than others, we doubt your goodness. Please forgive us. Help us to influence others for good, for their good and for the good of Your Kingdom. Help us to whisper life-giving words to our husbands. Help us to speak well of him. Forgive us for falling short, again and again. Help us to spend time in Your Word and to let it shape us and influence our words and actions. Thank You for Your example and ability to help us. Thank You that Your mercies are new every morning. Thank You for grace…help us to receive it and extend it to others each day.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.